Have any of you had what I call "fake" friends? I feel like at every point in a girl's life, you have a fake friend. I have had several in my life. Some of these friends I still stay in touch with. I wouldn't consider them fake friends in the TRUE sense but maybe just friends that have become acquaintances However, I know that if they were ever in town on vacation etc... they would call me up to come visit. I am fine with these types of friends. Honestly, in this day and age it is really hard to keep up with everyone in a truly "friend" sense.
Now, I do have a few people who I would consider close friends. These are people who call me up or email me just as frequently as I email or call them. We get together semi-regularly, or we attempt to get together :). There is also a mutual friendship. This means that they want to be friends with me and I want to be friends with them. It isn't a one way street. I hate one-sided friendships and for the most part I rid myself of them (unless they are long time friends who I consider more like family).
Recently, I have been wrestling with a fake friendship; basically, I have been deciding whether to end it or not. I had this "friend" but now I truly wonder if we were ever friends. We used to get together, but she always had a very "belittling" tone when it came to me. You know those people... you get together with them, and every time they talk to you it sounds like they are talking to their little sister or to a child. I really didn't appreciate this, but I blew it off because I know some people don't know they are speaking like this (it is just their nature and their tone). Anyway, I finally decided to end this friendship and here are the reasons why:
1) "Friends" who NEVER email you. You email them to let them know about events, fun things they might enjoy, but they NEVER reciprocate. They also don't seem to appreciate your emails. It is as if you are a bother to them. They reply but it is like "who cares".
2) "Friends" who live near you, and are interested in similar things but don't invite you. These are the friends who are attending an event or doing an activity that they know you would enjoy. However, they don't let you know about it. It isn't as if you need to go together to the event (although friends typically would), but they don't even let you know about it! I am also not talking about one time occurrences, I am more so speaking of a complete disregard for the other person.
3) "Friends" who just basically don't reciprocate the friendship. Yes, they may "like" or comment on a Facebook status, but it is as if they follow you just to keep tabs on you, rather than to actually be your friend.
I finally decided to rid myself of one such friend today. I had been debating but I finally made the decision it was time. This person was always nice to my face, but in reality, she ignored me, belittled me, and just basically was not a nice person. It was as if her "nice" demeanor in public, was just to make her look better. It was always a shock to me. She would be totally nice in person (in front of other people) but was a completely different person online. Maybe she was nice to people who she wanted to be friends with. I am sure she was. However, I am tired of trying to keep up with people who don't also want to be friends with me. This is part of my Happiness project in a sense. I am getting rid of the negativity. Now lets clarify I a few things... do I hate her? NO! not at all. Am I mad at her? I am still a little frustrated, but I do forgive her. If I forgive her, why do I have to unfriend her? There are just certain people who, in their actions, bring about negative thoughts. I don't want to have those thoughts anymore so it is just better that I break it off. It won't really matter, because she won't even know I am gone! haha!
Anyway, I just wanted to reach out and see if any of you in blogger land have experienced this same thing? Have you had to break off any "fake" friendships?